One of the greatest prejudices I see on this planet is our judgement of emotional response. Isn’t it funny how we’re conditioned to think that the so called “positive” emotions are the best ones. I don’t recall the fairytale being called, “Snow White and… Happy”!
All of our emotions, especially grief, sadness, shock, respectful anger, or even frustration can be vital to our healing process. As we all know life throws us many curve balls, and our body is designed to deal with the stress of these situations through feeling and expressing our emotions to these events. Crying, for example, is such a healing act and allows our body to release the sadness we are holding. I cringe when I hear parents tell their children (especially their young boys), to stop crying when they are sad. I admire anybody who can be brave and strong enough to sit in their vulnerability and allow the emotions to rise and be expressed. Strength is not the ability to not cry; it’s the ability to cry, to laugh, to be scared, to be brave, to communicate respectful anger and frustration – to feel, and express those feelings.
Too often, we can push these important emotions down because we become fearful of really experiencing and feeling them. We can start to believe that the pain in our chest is too much to bear, and so we stop–we wait. But we are meant to feel, and our hearts are meant to be broken, but they never break in two — they just break open to allow us to love more and feel even more. Getting to this understanding however, can be the real test–sometimes it can seem much easier just to push it all down and instead, become bitter and resentful.
When things are not going our way it is so easy to be seduced into believing that life has it in for us- that somehow what is happening is unjust. But life, just is – and whatever is happening is simply another opportunity to choose. We can either choose to breathe through it and be empowered by it, or we can fall in a heap and blame everyone and everything for how we feel. Our feelings are just a gauge for us to notice what needs attention in our life. How we interpret the events that occur, will create the feelings we have that are associated to those events. Let the drama go-be still-and pay attention to the wisdom that is trying to come through… if only we would let it!
Till next time… much love, Terry xx